Family Fundamentals

From my perspective, there is nothing more important than family. In my private practice, how to create a healthy family is a topic that we explore in tremendous depth. When we are born into this world, we are a tabula rasa (a blank slate). Our family molds and shapes us into the person we are — it’s how we create a sense of self and the kind of person we become in life. Our sense of whether we are able to trust others, are worthy of belonging, and have the ability to achieve great things, all come primarily from the messages we witness and receive from our family of origin. Our family provides the foundation for success — within ourselves, within our relationships, and within the broader society.

There is no perfect family; and everyone has a level of wounding, because as humans, we are imperfect. It is common for wounds from childhood to affect the level of an individual's functioning and his or her ability to be successful in marriage and family life. Most often, people continue to live without addressing these issues or maladaptive patterns. As a result, they continue to carry dysfunction into their marriage, replay it in their current family structure, and then pass it to the next generation.

This is why couples come to counseling — because it's time to change course. Individuals with courage and wisdom recognize the healthier part of themselves — the part that knows the importance of addressing the root of what is going on in their relationships. In my practice, we look at where the patterns developed, and where the patterns create issues, and work on changing them — until ultimately, this cycle is no longer detrimental and a new healthy pattern prevails.

Our work together will help you not only become your best self for you, but also for your family and the world at large. Contact me to get started.